I posted my story for the first time a year ago on my Facebook page. The outpouring of support was incredibly overwhelming. Many encouraged me to start a blog, and so I eventually did. And so, here I am, sharing that same story again in hopes of encouraging others to do the same thing. You don’t have to hide. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you aren’t. There are so many people who will support you and love you and see you as the beautiful human being that you are!
At 12-years-old, I discovered that I was gay. My first kiss was with a girl. And my second. My first encounters with sexual exploration were also with those girls. But it was secret. All of it. And I knew it had to stay that way. I entered high school the next year, Catholic high school, after being at a Catholic elementary school since second grade. My entire family was Catholic. I knew no one who was gay and had only ever been taught how wrong that lifestyle was. And so those feelings were tucked far, far away.
I had a crush on a girl my sophomore year of high school. During my birthday party that year, I got called inside and reprimanded for being too friendly in the hot tub with her because “Do you know what that looks like?!?” Tucked away again.
And, so, you probably know how the rest of the story goes: The girl finds a boy. The girl gets married. The girl has two amazing little beings…
Fast forward 24 years…
Although being cheated on, lied to, and dumped for someone else after devoting half my lifetime to one person was not how I wanted my life to go, I realized fairly quickly that it was exactly what had to happen in order for me to finally have the courage to be the person I was born to be. And, that life that I hid behind for so many years brought me two of the most perfect blessings I ever could’ve asked for, two blessings who also completed the family that the woman I married always dreamed of.
Almost two years ago today, I came out to my family. It wasn’t the smoothest experience, but it was so freeing because I no longer had to hide who I really was. In the past two years, however, my family and friends have been unbelievably amazing. They’ve shown me love and support like I never could’ve imagined. They see that I am finally happy, and that is all that matters to them. I love them so much for that because I know that not everyone’s coming out experience is as positive as mine has been.
Update: Since writing this original post, my incredible spouse and I got engaged and married and are living the love we have always dreamed of. I am so in love with the life we are building, and I couldn’t be prouder to be the wife of someone so incredibly perfect. I love you, Yvonne.
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